It is usual in a Filipino Family migrating to other countries for a better future.
In our family, on the father side, most of my relatives are now living in USA and Australia. They do visit us here in the Philippines from time to time. So when they do, we sit down and plan our next adventure!
Since birth, I was never with my Papa (Father) for more than two months. He’s an Overseas Filipino Worker based in The Kingdom of Saudi Arabia. He usually goes back in the Philippines every after 2 years and stays with us for just 60 days, that’s about 2 months.
He needed to work far from us to support our education and our basic needs. There are times that he wanted to quit working overseas because of homesick, culture shock and more challenges he has to face everyday but my mama (mother) always tell him not to.
My Graduation Day, 2012
Going back with every struggle we face to the day me and my brother finished our studies, I saw my papa with a big smile on his face. That’s what he wanted, he even always tell us that education is the only thing that we can inherit from him. I think he is wrong, yes education is important, but that is not the only thing we can inherit from papa. His unconditional love, his sacrifice, his patience, his courage, his strength, an ultimate responsible papa and all his good traits, too many to mention, those are what we learn from him.
Today me and my brother graduated and both of us are working in an international company. And as I always say, its payback time! My prayer is that papa will stop working overseas, we’re still telling him not to go back. Hopefully this is his last. We are looking forward to be with him not just for 2 months but more than 2 months, more than 5 months, more than 8 months, more than a year and more than decades. Can’t wait for that time to come. Though we always argue when he is here, it’s all good. He is my Papa and I love him the way he is.
Hope you can read this papa. We love you and please take good care of yourself. We may not be there to take care of you but you are in our hearts and prayers. Most of all, remember that God is with you always at the end of age.
For all the children out there, who have the same experience as ours. Those who have parents working overseas, we will never feel the exact pain that they feel every time we say goodbye when they need to go back in other country to work for a living. What we can do is give time talking to them, yes we’re so busy with our lives in our country and sometimes fail to ask them if they are okay. Please, never forget to say Hi and ask them if they are eating 3 times a day, how’s their day, what are they thinking, how’s work or any question that you can ask thinking that they are just near.
Let’s be more patient to them because some OFW’s are sensitive and sometimes stubborn. My papa is like that but I’m not saying all OFW.
Take an extra mile to show OFW’s how much we love and appreciate what they are doing for us.
How about you, how is your relationship with your Father or Mother who works overseas? What’s in your thoughts now?
Leave your comment below. Would really love to hear from you.
A woman of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her. “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate. Proverbs 31:10-31
And I want women to be modest in their appearance.They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes. For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do. 1 Timothy 2:9-10
This year 2014, lets focus on what is inside us than what others can see physically. I’m not saying we stop dressing up to look presentable. Its more on being presentable outside assuring that your inside look is presentable as well. Specially when others don’t see what we do. Let’s continue to be honest with ourselves. I think that’s what matters most. Honesty to thyself and others will help us be the most beautiful human being we can be. All for the glory of our Maker, God.
Life expires. That’s a fact that most people never thinks of. Now I realized why we have funeral ceremonies. I think the purpose of that is to be aware and be reminded that human life is short. We don’t even know when our time will be. Like, who’s next? Let me quote one character in the bible named Solomon, this is what he said about death “ .. sadness has a refining influence on us”. Every time a loved one dies, we fell so much pain, grieving all day, and sadness becomes so strong. When sadness becomes so strong, we tend to realize important things in life, it’s like telling ourselves, “Hey don’t just hear when people say life is short, you have to understand that truth. Life is short, so start doing things that matters most. ” No one knows what will happen tomorrow. Every time I remember that one day we will face our death, I start checking my life. And start asking questions like, “Am I living a meaningful life?” “Am I living a self-centered life”
See Matthew 24
“It’s in the face of death that we make serious and true evaluation of the way our lives have been lived and how differently we want to spend our hours today. It’s the wise who learn from the brevity of life – in the light of the reality and inevitability of death.” – K.T. Sim
So teach us to number our days, that we may get us a heart of wisdom. Psalm 90:12 Amplified Bible